Having a child put a lot of strain on the marriage. My husband seems a little jealous of the bond I have with baby. Not sure if he is jealous that we have less intimate or that he feels badly because the baby always cries when he holds him.
It’s a lot of strain on me too. I can hardly get 5 mins to take a shower in peace without husband telling me to hurry up to comfort the baby.
I’ve been baby wearing and co-sleeping. Baby is only 3 months old so I’m hoping it might get a little easier but everytime I set him down he starts crying.
I’m getting accused of “spoiling” our baby and my husband says I should let him cry it out. That feels too unnatural to me.
Oh and crying out is proven to actual damage brain and had long lasting negative effects on mental health… Men use to respond better to logic than to mother nature instincts, so you can study facts and lead the conversation with that.
You are on the right path with trusting your instincts. Physical contact with mother is the most natural thing human kind needs. It took me actually much longer than you to realize it. 😉 And yes it is and will be difficult with a lot of changes. Today’s society is against so many natural parenting practices what makes it even harder. You “spoil” your baby and in just a few years, your son will adore his father for a change (that is what they say happens to boys).
One of the things I'm most passionate about is connection to self. I was disconnected from my body, my emotions and my intuition for so long. To be in alignment we need to be connected to and deeply know and love ourselves. These are the building blocks of the universe.
“Parenting taught me to embrace what worked for me and my baby, even if it didn’t match societal norms.” I relate so much to this and I’m so grateful that I realized this 7 years ago as a new mom in her early 20s. Trusting my intuition, tuning in to my babies and staying close to them (literally and figuratively) has been my lifeline for each of my three children — but I will say, at times this has been isolating. I struggle to meet like-minded parents who follow similar rhythms. Do you find that this approach to mothering can be isolating as well? 🫶
I’m happy to hear that you went through a similar path, Megan 🙂. It’s not widely known, unfortunately. And with three children - wow! 🙏🏻 I often felt lonely, that’s true. Over time, I had exactly two friends with whom I really connected - only one of them in the same city. Their support and understanding meant so much to me.
But after almost four years, I’ve found myself surrounded by more and more families like us 🙂. It’s unbelievable! How does it look for you now, after all these years? Are you actively trying to find parents with a similar approach?
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us Selene. I truly love reading and following this. For a person like me, who is currently anticipating and working throught the decision of becoming a mother, it is so nice to hear from such vulnerable shares. It is so rare to have people share it so deeply and truthfully. Thank you!
Thank you, Maria Ann. I would be so happy to read something similar before I became a mother. So I am thrilled I can provide it for someone. And thank you for your huge support!
Having a child put a lot of strain on the marriage. My husband seems a little jealous of the bond I have with baby. Not sure if he is jealous that we have less intimate or that he feels badly because the baby always cries when he holds him.
It’s a lot of strain on me too. I can hardly get 5 mins to take a shower in peace without husband telling me to hurry up to comfort the baby.
I’ve been baby wearing and co-sleeping. Baby is only 3 months old so I’m hoping it might get a little easier but everytime I set him down he starts crying.
I’m getting accused of “spoiling” our baby and my husband says I should let him cry it out. That feels too unnatural to me.
Oh and crying out is proven to actual damage brain and had long lasting negative effects on mental health… Men use to respond better to logic than to mother nature instincts, so you can study facts and lead the conversation with that.
You are on the right path with trusting your instincts. Physical contact with mother is the most natural thing human kind needs. It took me actually much longer than you to realize it. 😉 And yes it is and will be difficult with a lot of changes. Today’s society is against so many natural parenting practices what makes it even harder. You “spoil” your baby and in just a few years, your son will adore his father for a change (that is what they say happens to boys).
One of the things I'm most passionate about is connection to self. I was disconnected from my body, my emotions and my intuition for so long. To be in alignment we need to be connected to and deeply know and love ourselves. These are the building blocks of the universe.
“Parenting taught me to embrace what worked for me and my baby, even if it didn’t match societal norms.” I relate so much to this and I’m so grateful that I realized this 7 years ago as a new mom in her early 20s. Trusting my intuition, tuning in to my babies and staying close to them (literally and figuratively) has been my lifeline for each of my three children — but I will say, at times this has been isolating. I struggle to meet like-minded parents who follow similar rhythms. Do you find that this approach to mothering can be isolating as well? 🫶
I’m happy to hear that you went through a similar path, Megan 🙂. It’s not widely known, unfortunately. And with three children - wow! 🙏🏻 I often felt lonely, that’s true. Over time, I had exactly two friends with whom I really connected - only one of them in the same city. Their support and understanding meant so much to me.
But after almost four years, I’ve found myself surrounded by more and more families like us 🙂. It’s unbelievable! How does it look for you now, after all these years? Are you actively trying to find parents with a similar approach?
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us Selene. I truly love reading and following this. For a person like me, who is currently anticipating and working throught the decision of becoming a mother, it is so nice to hear from such vulnerable shares. It is so rare to have people share it so deeply and truthfully. Thank you!
Thank you, Maria Ann. I would be so happy to read something similar before I became a mother. So I am thrilled I can provide it for someone. And thank you for your huge support!