We keep telling ourselves to “regulate,” “heal,” and “find safety within.” But what if safety is something we’re meant to receive first, long before we’re expected to create it on our own?
This is all so true Selene. If the conditions for safety are there to begin with, for the most part, we don't need to be so obsessed as adults to create it. I think another thing that contributes to feeling unsafe is also the world we live in, particularly for women who are cyclical, living in a world not designed for them. It's such a complex and nuanced topic. I personally have had to learn to give myself presence, which the body perceives as safety. But I do think ultimately it comes down to the quality of our relationships.
I completely agree with the overall not ideal conditions for safety for us. That is why I appeal on the parents to help and create it with their children because those children can then create a different world.
Finding what our bodies actual need to feel safe is a tricky, ongoing job. Happy you found your way.
And the relationship part, I completely agree. Safety is relational. And I experience much more unsafe relationships in my life than the safe ones. 😵💫
I am happy we can openly discuss this super important topic together. ✨
This is all so true Selene. If the conditions for safety are there to begin with, for the most part, we don't need to be so obsessed as adults to create it. I think another thing that contributes to feeling unsafe is also the world we live in, particularly for women who are cyclical, living in a world not designed for them. It's such a complex and nuanced topic. I personally have had to learn to give myself presence, which the body perceives as safety. But I do think ultimately it comes down to the quality of our relationships.
Thank you, Alex, for your comment.
I completely agree with the overall not ideal conditions for safety for us. That is why I appeal on the parents to help and create it with their children because those children can then create a different world.
Finding what our bodies actual need to feel safe is a tricky, ongoing job. Happy you found your way.
And the relationship part, I completely agree. Safety is relational. And I experience much more unsafe relationships in my life than the safe ones. 😵💫
I am happy we can openly discuss this super important topic together. ✨